Self-Confidence

Self-Confidence & Self-Esteem Tips

Self-confidence: build and strengthen trust and💖 faith in yourself

Healthy self-confidence is an important success factor – personally, emotionally and professionally. Here you will find practical tips on how you can train and strengthen your lack of self-confidence.

A healthy and strong self-confidence – who of us doesn’t want that? With a good dose of it, you go through life more carefree. You have no inhibitions about approaching others, you are not afraid of rejection or criticism, you have more confidence in yourself professionally and therefore you are more successful; there is little fear of failure and much more.

Unfortunately, most people’s self-confidence suffered in childhood. Let’s look at where that lack comes from.

The cause of low self-confidence

Nobody is born with little or no self-confidence. If we don’t trust ourselves, are shy and inhibited, it is because we have had experiences from an early age that have left us with the feeling that something is wrong with us and that we are inferior. These experiences are responsible for the fact that we carry around with us today a voice that never has a good or friendly word for us and which I therefore call the “inner critic”.

The inner critic is constantly trying to attack our self-esteem, assertiveness and self-confidence. The inner critic throws humiliating words at us like fool, idiot, failure and coward or describes us as stupid, ugly, incompetent and weak. So we constantly have strong self-doubts and our self-image suffers. The inner critic does his job so skillfully that his criticism appears to us justified and right.

Our inner critic leaves us believing that we are inferior and does nothing to increase our self-possession and self-esteem. On the contrary: He always has only one thing in mind: to make us “small”. No wonder our self-esteem and confidence are low.

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The hour of birth of the inner critic

The critic in us arose in our first years of life. During this time, the adults in particular, but also our peers, consciously and unconsciously, constantly made us aware of our mistakes and weaknesses. They punished us with words and dismissive behavior when we were not what they asked us to be: “You are no good!”, “You will never become anything!”, “You just have to be angry with you!” , “Hollow nut!”, “Stupid goose!”, “You have two left hands.”, “You are lazy!”, “One only has trouble with you.”, “Fat girl!”

Some days such discouraging and hurtful words pounded down on us like a hailstorm. Over time, we learned to see each other through the eyes of our parents and to speak to ourselves as our parents once did. That was the hour of birth of the inner critic and weak self-confidence.

If we want to rebuild our self-confidence, we need to learn to construct ourselves and build our self-esteem. We have to be a coach to ourselves who strengthens our confidence in our abilities and supports us in the event of failures, weaknesses and defeats.

We have to get the inner critic out of our heads and put an encouraging and motivating voice in its place. So we have to stop belittling ourselves and convincing ourselves that we are no good or inferior.

Strengthen your self-esteem

A positive self-esteem and a positive self-image are prerequisites for healthy self-confidence. As you become more accepting of yourself, your self-confidence will improve. You can build and train your weak confidence yourself. Do the following exercises:

Say to yourself, “I like you.” This is how you can build healthy self-esteem. What have you always wanted to hear from your parents, siblings or peers, but have rarely or never heard? They were probably words such as “I like you. You’re amazing.”

We all long for unconditional love. We want to be loved for our own sake. If you say, “I can only accept myself when I am perfect, when I have a perfect body, when I have achieved this or that,” then you are doing exactly what your parents did.

You set conditions on your love for yourself. You say to yourself: “If you are like this, then I don’t like you. I only love you when you change.” That is why it is important that you take care of yourself even if you are seemingly not perfect. If you make your self-esteem dependent on being perfect, your self-esteem and confidence will not be stable.

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The mirror exercise

Take a few minutes each day for the next 30 days. Before starting the exercise, put yourself in a good mood by doing something like, for example, listen to your favorite music. This will make this exercise easier for you.

Take a small hand mirror or stand in front of a large mirror. You should do this exercise undisturbed and unobserved. This exercise will probably take you the most to overcome – but it is also the most powerful of them all and can work wonders.

Put a smile on your lips, look benevolently into each other’s eyes for a few seconds. Then say aloud to yourself, “… (insert your first name here): I love you.” Let these words sink in for a few seconds, then count five things that you are proud of.

For example: “I am proud of you that you have the courage to do this exercise. I am proud of you for making an effort to accept yourself. Your eyes are beautiful – I love them. I think it’s great that you look after the children so lovingly. ”

Important to know: You will feel very uncomfortable with this exercise for the first few days! Your stomach may turn, you may cry, you may find it incredibly difficult to look each other in the eye and tell yourself that you like each other. These reactions are completely normal. They show you how estranged you are and how little you value yourself.

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Be aware of your successes

Our self-confidence increases with success. The more success you have privately and professionally, the more you see confirmation that what you are doing is right. The more successful you become, the more your self-confidence grows.

Every little success counts, because it gives you strength, courage and energy to keep going. It is therefore important that we are aware of our successes and ignore our mistakes. To be successful, you have to believe in yourself: Yes I can. I can do it. I can do it. Become an “I-can”-thinker.

Many people destroy their self-confidence because they think more and more about their mistakes and the moments when they failed than about their successes. Use your mistakes and failures to learn from them and then quickly forget about them and go back to your successes and strengths.

Always see yourself in the role of success instead of the role of loser. Remembering past successes and being happy about them strengthens self-confidence and a battered self-esteem.

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Make a note of what others appreciate about you.

Make a note of what others (partner, friend, children, work colleague, supervisor) appreciate about you. What compliments do these people give you?

My partner likes about me is that …
What my children appreciate about me is  …
My best friend appreciates about me …
What my work colleagues appreciate about me is that …
What my boss likes about me is …
My father / mother appreciate about me …

If you don’t know what friends, children, etc., appreciate about you, ask them. Remember these compliments over and over again, especially when you have doubts about yourself and when your critic tries to convince you that you’ve screwed up again and you’re not okay. By reminding yourself of what others appreciate about you, you build self-confidence and low self-esteem.

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Stop comparing yourself to others

They are unique and unmistakable. The habit of comparing yourself to others can be very damaging to your confidence. When you compare yourself to friends, colleagues or complete strangers who have more than you, who are more popular than you, who look better than you and who make more of themselves and their life, who have skills and talents that you don’t have, then you are jealous of the other and your self-esteem and self-confidence suffer. They inevitably feel inferior and devalued.

Comparing and measuring yourself against others is not in itself harmful. If you do poorly in the comparison, however, you must not make the mistake of thinking of yourself as less valuable and less competent.

That would be a conclusion that would damage your confidence and self-esteem. Instead of comparing yourself, it is better to look at where you started in your life and what you have learned and achieved in the course of your life. Healthy self-confidence is extremely important for your well-being.

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Need advice, guidance or simply someone to listen to you?

Then go ahead and book a 20 minutes free consulting call with me if you need help with letting go of your negative thoughts or don’t know how to stop identifying yourself with your mind.

As a panic attack and agoraphobia “survivor” myself, I am also here for you if you are in desperate search for relief from panic disorder, moderate depression or just could use someone to listen to you.

Feel free to either send me an email or give me a call. Then we will find out together what you really need help with, and how I can be of service to you.

My goal is to help you to re-discover who you truly are and reclaim your life. I’m also guiding you through by supporting you in letting go of your limiting beliefs. Only this way you can tap into your powerful resources and create the life you desire and deserve.

Never forget, you are spiritual beings and here to collect worldly experiences in order to expand, not vice versa. You are highly appreciated, unique and endlessly loved.

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